Frank & Lydia Belle King, May 29, 1938Tomorrow my grandparents will have been married for 70 years! Still my grandfather holds and strokes my grandmother's hand, guiding her through each day. It seems almost unimaginable to spend at least 70 years living with the same person! But here is proof that it is possible. DH (Dear Husband) and I will celebrate our 17th anniversary this summer. It won't be too many more years until we have been together longer than we haven't! (To quote the Sicilian in "The Princess Bride": "Inconceivable!")
I thought by now I would feel mature, self confident and knowledgeable about life. Instead I feel like a heavier and grayer version of myself at age 15! If one indeed gains wisdom with age, I hope that some of that wisdom gets dropped in my lap someday soon...I sure could use it. I have to keep reminding myself when I come up against a task that I don't feel confident of doing that I am the adult here. I have to figure it out myself!
Now throw a couple of kids into the mix. What you have now is the ideal situation for years of therapy in the future! I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT I'M DOING (or, indeed, why I do some of the really asinine things I do)! I sort of assumed that child-rearing would come naturally, but mostly I feel pretty much like a failure at it. I go to bed every night hoping I haven't irreparably damaged my children. But I love them like crazy, and I'm counting on that to patch a lot of the thin areas in my parenting.
Happy Anniversary Grandpa and Grandma! I wish you many more! And to all of you Super Elaines...happy & loving homes to you all!
T
I thought by now I would feel mature, self confident and knowledgeable about life. Instead I feel like a heavier and grayer version of myself at age 15! If one indeed gains wisdom with age, I hope that some of that wisdom gets dropped in my lap someday soon...I sure could use it. I have to keep reminding myself when I come up against a task that I don't feel confident of doing that I am the adult here. I have to figure it out myself!
Now throw a couple of kids into the mix. What you have now is the ideal situation for years of therapy in the future! I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT I'M DOING (or, indeed, why I do some of the really asinine things I do)! I sort of assumed that child-rearing would come naturally, but mostly I feel pretty much like a failure at it. I go to bed every night hoping I haven't irreparably damaged my children. But I love them like crazy, and I'm counting on that to patch a lot of the thin areas in my parenting.
Happy Anniversary Grandpa and Grandma! I wish you many more! And to all of you Super Elaines...happy & loving homes to you all!
T
3 comments:
what a lovely post. . .happy anniversary to your grandparents! i hope to keep loving more as each year passes, as well--and as for all the other bits of life--well, what more can we ask for but love, peace, and mercy as we bumble through?
Very sweet! And you are doing fine on the family thing, therapy or not!
N
Wow! That's amazing. Congratulations to Gma and Gpa. 70!
T. you are doing a great job as a Mom! I hope the sunshine this afternoon (after the downpours) helped to ease your doubts.
S.
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